No matter what you name the second baby in the family, the life of #1 will be dramatically changed. It is not good or bad, but it is a big transition. Even adults don’t do well with transitions! There are lots of books and tips on the adjustments to assist in the process. Here are some I gathered from various Mommy Blogs:
- Do not expect to nap.
- Give anything for free babysitters, especially relatives.
- Go to bed when the kids do.
- Does underwear need to be folded? Really?
- When the baby makes noise tell the older child the baby is talking just to him or her.
- Accept any offers of help of any kind.
- Take a toy to the hospital for the older child and present it to him or her from the new baby.
- Let your child be the first one to see the new baby. Take lots of pictures.
- Have an art project of the older sibling ready to show visitors so they can talk about something besides the new baby.
- Once in a while make the baby wait. Even if it means a little fussing, say, “Sorry, baby. You can wait a little.” Then finish with the toddler before going to the infant.
- Acknowledge the change to the older child. “Things sure are different!”
- Keep an emergency diaper bag in the car with minimal needs in case. Restock it in calm moments.
- It is really a short time in the big picture of life, no matter how it looks now! It won’t be long before both kids are ganging up on you!
The Glen Ellyn Public Library offers materials of all kinds to help everyone in the family. This spring there are several programs just to celebrate growing families. Register any time at our online calendar or by clicking the links below.
April 9, 16, 23, 30, May 7
Read with Me Level 1 for ages birth to 9 months 10:30 a.m.
April 10, 17, 24, May 1, 8
Read with me for Siblings, related children birth –age 5 10:30 a.m.
April 11, 18, 25, May 2, 9
Read with me for Siblings, related children birth –age 5 9:30 a.m.
-Robin, Early Literacy Librarian