By: Hannah Rapp, Young Adult Librarian
If you’ve been by the library in the past couple of weeks, you may have noticed a small (or arguably big) change to my appearance. After nearly a month of agonizing (really) I cut off almost a foot of hair and went from braids and ponytails to a short pixie cut. Can you tell from the picture how nervous I was?
Analyze your reactions. This is harder than it seems. I was changing my mind every two hours for a couple of weeks, but things clarified a little when I thought about what I was feeling while I was leaning one way or the other. For instance, when I thought about getting the cut, I was mostly feeling excited. When I was leaning towards not getting my hair cut, I was mostly feeling scared. Now, sometimes listening to the fear response is a good thing (for instance, if you’re considering dropping out of school, trying heroin, and hitchhiking to California, being scared is probably a good thing and you should absolutely listen to that fear response.) But in this case, I was talking about hair. So it made a lot more sense to listen to the excited feeling instead of the scared feeling.
Keep in mind worst scenarios. I don’t mean this as a way of being pessimistic, but as a way to put your decision in perspective. For instance, in the drop-out, drugs, hitchhiking scenario, the worst case outcomes include death, prison, addiction, etc. – pretty bad stuff. In the hair-cutting scenario, the worst case outcomes include…a not-so-great haircut for a few months until it starts to grow back. Which is really not so bad.
Flip a coin. Really. I did this right before I went into the salon. Not that you have to do what the coin flip says. But flip a coin, see what the result is and go with your gut. If the coin says “yes” to the haircut/college/class/relationship and your gut clenches and you’re disappointed, then don’t go with that decision. If the coin says “yes” to the haircut/college/class/relationship and you start to smile and get excited, then go with that decision! Coin flips, magic 8 balls or other randomized decision makers can sometimes be the best way of getting right to the heart of the matter and figuring out what you really want amidst all the noise of overthinking.
So whether or not you are considering a dramatic haircut, what college to go to or even what book you read next, I hope some of these steps that helped me make a small but hard decision might help you too!